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Yeah, of course, and I still see them occasionally. He’s so relaxed; he’s not what I thought they were like! In Korea, everyone always asks, “Do you have a boyfriend? ” How do you respond when someone asks you if you have a girlfriend? It’s funny because my students typically ask more than adults. One time, one of them said, “Teacher, you’re alone, right? I’ve chatted with guys who have encouraged me to go. First, you can meet guys through friends, but it doesn’t happen often. [laughing] The apps tell you how physically close you are to the person that you’re chatting with.
I’m like, “No, no boyfriend,” but then I got kind of depressed, thinking ughhhh.
To be honest, I'm not that shallow as far as looks are concerned because his character and motives are much more important to me. While I find myself having many first, second and third dates, I experience the pitfalls of big city living.
Men have many options, and they have an idea of what kind of woman they want to commit to. Men seem to date Korean women more seriously, and whether the man is foreign or Korean doesn't matter.
SS: How long have you been living in Korea and where have you lived? In Korea, that’s kind of unknown territory, and it’s still very taboo. My old school was much bigger and practically all the foreign teachers knew. I’ve heard stories about foreign teachers who have come out to their Korean bosses and have gotten fired because of it. I’m a foreigner in this country; it would be different if I were a citizen standing up for my rights. There are queens standing outside, whereas in Seoul (specifically Jongro), there’s little to no discrepancy between gay and straight bars. There are extensive communities; it’s not something that’s hidden.
I’ve lived in Seoul for a year and a half; I lived in northern Seoul for a year and I recently moved to the center. Do you feel like you have to be more discreet about your sexuality in everyday life or just at work? For example, I can’t tell my boss that I’m seeing someone or that I went on a date, but to be fair, I might not talk to an American boss about that either. Eventually I told a few Korean teachers, which was funny because they didn’t believe me at first. There may be one discreet sign, but unless you are aware of it, you would probably just pass by without giving it a second thought. You can easily approach someone you’re interested in, but in Korea, you can only do that in a gay-designated area, and that’s limited to the few bars and clubs, or the online apps.